INFIDELITY

Are you concerned that your spouse has been “cheating” on you?

Do you avoid confronting your spouse because of fear of divorce?

Has your marriage been an “OPEN marriage”, but you no longer want to continue this?

Have your threats of divorce been ineffective in changing this problem?

In most cases, an affair is a single situation which is an attempt to fix some other problem. Many couples can successfully overcome this glitch in their marriage by utilizing a combination of individual and marital therapy. It will take time to establish trust again and intimacy becomes a major issue.  Sometimes, sex therapy can help couples learn to communicate their needs and preferences.

In some cases, a structured, time out experience is necessary.  During this time, the partners will have both individual and marital therapy. For some, this may be a temporary opportunity to achieve space from the hurt and anger. Rules and necessary arrangements for money, bills, care of children and other concerns are written into an agreement which can be amended from week to week. There is no action towards a divorce, but each may chose to consult with an attorney.  The couple agree to not discuss what is going on with their friends or extended family members, whose well meaning advice can add fuel to the fire. This physical separation is time limited, with the expectation that a reunification is possible.

In cases where infidelity has been a recurring action, it may be more difficult to overcome the hurt and anger, and sometimes the urge for revenge is powerful.  However, I have had some cases over the years where couples have established new rules, and an improved relationship is possible.

Call for an appointment and a free 15 minute consultation to see if this form of therapy might help you.